I decided to stop trying to make blogs that are too specific. Actually they decided for me. So here is one about nothing. This is actually really awesome because now I can write about whatever I want. And I guess this is really about anything more than nothing... technically speaking.
I have always had a theory about life. It's about a secret skill that we can see in sports, the workplace, or sometimes one that comes in handy in surprise situations. The idea is that there is a certain something of a special quality in somebody's ability to lose. Yeah that's right, some of us are far better at losing than others. (you still with me?)
Here is the thing. We spend a lot of time worrying about how to win, be a winner, be the best, be good, better, and prevent failure. Lets assume that everything in life is evaluated by winning and losing.
I mean, being good at losing is two things. Right?
#1 you suck so bad that the only thing you are good at is losing.
#2 you lose, and you handle it to a point that it doesn't matter, almost like you won anyhow. (almost)
I do a lot of stuff and I am actually fair to good at everything I do. So either I only do things that are not challenging to me or (it's this one ---> ) I actually fail at things just like everybody else, and I immediately (OK, sometimes eventually) recognize my faults, accept them, and forget about them. Anybody that can do this will be able to "improve" their ability to no longer lose... I mean, you will probably lose some more, just not as much. And soon you will win. Or not. But it doesn't matter because you already have accepted that you are fully capable of losing. #loselikeyoumeanit!
I explained this to a friend of mine and he said "Ohhhhh, like you just don't give a crap about it!"
No.
If you don't care, you don't WANT to achieve anything. I fully believe that if you want to do something, you got the first step to successfully doing so. Not caring if you do or do not do something is probably more in the direction of failure, which is different than losing.
Its more like knowing that you can fail, and deciding not to, even if you do. You all remember the scene in the movie The Matrix where Neo is trying to jump from a rooftop to another building at ~impossible ft. away. Neo was convinced he would fail, and he could not decide not to. (if you have no clue what I just said, watch The Matrix, right now.)
I once wrote on a job application that "I am better at losing than most people". I got an interview and it never came up, I was offered the job, but since I couldn't be sure if I was being hired for my skills of losing, I turned the job down..... I actually had a different interview and already had a better job.
Losing > Winning
